Should my 18 year old daughter go to a hotel room party after prom?

She is a good kid and is graduating next month. The school is having a chapparoned party afterward, but, she says some of her friend are getting a hotel room to hang out in. I am a widow and I am saying ';no';. She says nothing going to happen, but I smell trouble. Am I wrong? I'm my wits end here. ThanksShould my 18 year old daughter go to a hotel room party after prom?
Hotel parties are for one thing and one thing only- to do what they won't allow you to do at the chaperoned party. We're talking drinking, drugs and sex most likely. Even if she doesn't think that anything is going to happen, something will. And if she's listening to you about this, then that's great. But she is 18 and legally can do what she wants to. I would advice her to not go. Just explain that even though she may not think that anything is going to happen, there might just be a crasher that shows up with a case of beer. Tell her that you're worried about her well being, and that you respect the fact that she's an adult now, but you've been around the block a few more times than she has and know that sometimes things don't go as planned. So long as she's not hearing 'No, I absolutely forbid it' and understands that you're simply worried about her well being, she'll probably take your advice. But telling an 18 year old that she can't do it is only going to make her want to do it more.Should my 18 year old daughter go to a hotel room party after prom?
You can say no all you want but she is of legal age and can do as she pleases. However, your instincts are right. Nothing good comes of those hotel parties. If you want them to be safe offer your house up for the night for the after party. That way you can keep a ';discreet'; eye on things and make sure there is no drinking or sex.





I mention sex because Prom comes in 2nd next to Christmas when the most teenagers lose their virginity.





Edit- No, parenting never stops BUT at 18 it changes from telling them what to do to advising them and letting them make their own choices. (even if those choices are stupid and will only cause them grief later)
no i d think that's a good idea at all, u and i know exactly what happens prom night, and kids today don't exactly be truthful to parents about that sort of thing, so if you've said no to her then she should respect your wishes and don't go.Another problem is that she is legally old enough to make her own decisions about that, but if u have trained her up right which i believe you have she will do the right thing, just stick to what you believe in and see what happens.Good luck!
My school did the same thing and my mom wouldn't let me go. I still regret it to this day because that's what high school is all about-making memories. How bad could it really be if you say she's a good kid?? Let her have her fun and spend the last moments she has from high school with her friends. This is HER time to be irresponsible because after high school she will have TONS of them!! I say let her go--but you are, afterall her parent.
Although you might have bad thoughts about this, but you should let her. Let her know that you trust her to make smart decisions. and make sure you give her a safe sex talk just in case. teenagers will be teenagers and you can't change that, but you can stop them from being effected by the consequences.
from one mom to another...im glad you are concerned enough to question this...the best way to stay out of trouble is to avoid it in the first place....your daughter may be a good kid but you cant trust other people..what if the guys get drunk and force themselves on her..she is safer to be home with you
Well i would leave that up to her, because if you tell her not to go its only going to her wanting too go. If she tells you nothing will happen then trust her. but a hotel after prom .. im not sure. but go with your instincts. =)
If she's 18 you have no ability to say no. Let her grow up and experience the results of her own decisions.
i'm only twelve but all with my cousin's prom being last year... i know alot about this stuff. I say you shouldn't because my cousin lost her virginity there because she was drunk....
she can just tell her if she has sex its going to be the biggest mistake of her life
Shes 18, its up to her.
if you smell trouble , stick to your guns , I remember my prom.... don't be her friend , be her parent